I like children. I like talking to them and playing with them, I think many of them are adorable, and I’m quite good with them. I’m very glad that many of my friends have children. But I don’t want my own for the following reasons:
1. My mental health – I can’t rely on not getting too anxious/depressed to cope.
2. I like my own time.
3. I hate being too busy. I don’t want to be permanently busy.
4. I don’t want a job where I’m on duty all the time, no matter how rewarding it might be.
5. I’m honestly not convinced that it makes people happier, and I expect it’s especially unlikely to make someone who doesn’t really want them happier.
6. It takes up a lot of time and I’d like to spend that time doing other things.
7. It can often be incredibly boring.
8. I’m not sure I have the patience.
I found this article the other day. Dawn Porter writes that she feels like she ought to want children, because to most women it’s obvious, but that she just doesn’t, at least at the moment, for many of the same reasons as me (minus the mental health stuff). A lot of the comments say “go on, have kids, you won’t regret it!”
After reading this I looked up child-free groups on the internet. I thought that maybe I could comment, linking her to these groups and show her that there are people who just don’t want children – that it is an option. But most the childfree groups I found seem to be full of people who hate all children and parents (they call parents “breeders” – yuck). There are some slightly better ones, but even they tend to be quite obnoxious about parents and children.